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Mind Chi Chat – positive successes!

Ahhhh… after ‘negative’ last week, this week we balance it with – yes… positive!

And I always like to use the term ‘realistically positive’ – looking for the positive facts in any situation.
NOT an ‘Everything is just wonderful!’ when it clearly is not!

After you have pulled the lessons from the ‘negative’ review, you have some small opportunities to begin to change yourself to the you, you most want to be.

Step 4 – Associate the positive successes

This forth minute of the Mind Chi 8-minute routine, is for you to recall all the positive and successful things you have said, done or thought over the past 24 hours.

It may be that you took a breath before responding to a negative comment someone made – yes!! That is a success! Count this on your dominant hand.

You know when you put in extra effort on a project and even of no one else says anything, give yourself a pat on the back – bravo me!!

And why call this step ‘associate’?

Here is also one of the great secrets to a good memory and the basic functioning of your brain, it is the power of association. Your brain automatically links and connects one piece of information to another. For example, you see a person you have not seen in a long time, and at once where you both were, what you did, who else was involved… All floods back into your mind.

Multi-ordinate nature of words -positive!
Multi-ordinate nature of words -positive!

Here is nature’s example of the multi-ordinate nature of words – the many hooked associations. Think of ‘strawberries’ and what flood of words can be quickly linked, connected and associated? If you have 20 items to remember, and you group them into say, 4 groups, each of the key group words will ‘pull’ the other words back from your mind.

The 4th step of Mind Chi is positive associations

This 4th step of Mind Chi is very powerful for building your self concept. Many are feeling rather dented at this time, and catching and counting all the positive successes you have achieved, and then linking and associating them to all the others reinforces that ‘I am a worthwhile person!’

If you, or anyone dear to you is feeling down, then not only counting these successes every day on your dominant hand, as you recall them, but also writing them down in a journal, or coloured notes and putting them in a lovely glass jar – helps to reinforce and booster your and their confidence.

Chi and I are standing by on the ready to take your calls and emails! 

Showing how memory and positive success associations link in your brain
Chi & I look forward to seeing / hearing from YOU!!! 

To book a 15 minute Mind Chi Chat with Vanda to explore how Mind Chi might assist you, your group, team or company build resilience and joy! 

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Negative? Or positive responses

Mind Chi Chat – negative!

Mind Chi is all about building your resilience and positively directing your mental energy ,
so why do I want address the ‘negative’?

Step 3 of the Mind Chi 8-step routine is ‘Adjust’

This step is the one which usually generates most questions and concerns.
Let me put it into context.

Do you ever find that you are:
– repeating the same negative scenarios in your head?
– having the same arguments with those close to you?
– cross with yourself for saying or doing something hurtful?
– wishing that you had waited before you had responded sharply?
– wanting to improve a relationship, but slipping back each time?
– becoming upset with yourself for not making positive progress?

Yes! It is SO difficult to change negative behaviours!

The adjust the negative step is your opportunity to day by day, make incremental tweaks towards the way you would WISH to act, think, respond and live.

First become aware of your responses: now you have 1-minute every day, not to tell yourself off, or beat yourself up. But to look back and think, ‘I would rather have said / done / acted / been / thought in this way’.

Negative? Or positive responses
Negative? Or positive responses

How to make habit change happen?

The idea is that by working on amending a habit with tiny steps and consistently is the way to actually make change happen!

In this step 3 minute, you have the opportunity to look back over the past 24 hours and acknowledge those moments when you were less than your most wonderful self, and count them on your NON-dominant hand.

Even MORE important is to think, ‘How might I start to make this exchange improve?’
It is to learn the LESSONS for your positive tweaking of your behaviour.
That is what you pull from the minute.

At the end of this minute, brush or blow away the things you recalled from your non-dominant.
They are done, finished – they have shared their lesson and now you can move on.

The past is… PAST!

Let it GO! No need to review, rethink, re-agonise over it!

It will only be you who brings any past action alive in the now – and here you are using your mental energy against you. Remembering the lessons of the tweaks you WANT to make, is allowing your mental energy to work FOR you – much better!

Chi and I are standing by on the ready to take your calls and emails! 

Chi & I look forward to seeing / hearing from YOU!!! 

To book a 15 minute Mind Chi Chat with Vanda to explore how Mind Chi might assist you, your group, team or company build resilience and joy! 

And for more wonderful Mind Chi blogs:

Want more resilience for your organisation, here:

Here is a short cartoon about ‘Resilience for Change’