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Do you have joy at work? Yes! With your Mind Chi stress-free way.

Joy?  Have you given any thought to having joy at work?! (Or joy in life in general?) 

Are you like many I ask, whose response often is that they feel they don’t deserve joy, my reply is, “Oh yes you DO!’ And furthermore, it is a motivating, exciting and energising factor, well worthwhile.
But does any busy executive really have a shot at finding joy on the job? You usually think of high-level professionals as attaining a certain level of achievement-related satisfaction and getting external rewards such as raises and promotions. Rarely, if ever, is their happiness given serious consideration. Joy certainly isn’t in the core curriculum for most MBA programs.

Achieving joy at work is not only possible; it’s a necessity. I’ve come to appreciate that happiness on the job is a leading indicator of an individual’s ability to sustain high levels of passion, performance, and productivity over the long run. If you can uncover your true gifts and find work that makes regular use of them, you’ve fulfilled your responsibility to use them wisely and you’ve optimized your chances to claim your right to enjoy the process.

You can’t always control what assignments you accept at work. But regardless of your position, the choice you make about how you approach our work is up to you. Consider examining your business priorities — the goals you’ve promised to meet — then conducting a Time and Emotion Study to see how you’ve spent your time over the past few months. How well has your use of time fit with your objectives? Follow that up by making a task map and examining how well your responsibilities are aligned with your talents. If the fit isn’t as close as you would like, try talking to your colleagues to see what you can do as a team to reassign some responsibilities.

The simple Mind Chi Basic 8 minute routine will help you to move towards joy on a daily basis.

Each step is designed to increase your awareness of how you are currently experiencing the

Heading towards JOY!

Heading towards JOY!

world and to   DO something about it immediately – if necessary.  Step 3, being real, looks at the incidences over the past 24 hours that you wish you had handled differently, ONLY so you can pull the lessons of what you wish you had done, ready for next time. Step 4 has you remember all your successes, large and small, maybe only you know that it took a lot of effort to complete over the past 24 hours, and you give yourself a ‘success’ token.  This helps to build your self-confidence, crucial to a good joy reading! Step 7 asks you to plan 24 hours ahead, how do you need to BE to do your activities in the best way. Prepare to incorporate as much joy as possible. The goal is to keep moving the dial on your meter closer to joy. It’s your right.


(This blog was inspired by  a blog by Allison Rimm, who  is an educator, consultant, and executive coach. She is the former senior vice president for Strategic Planning and Information Management at Massachusetts General Hospital. http://blogs.hbr.org/cs/2013/02/joy_at_work_its_your_right.html)

On Valentine’s Day – first, fall in love with yourself!

Dear Valentines All

Happy Valentine's Day from Chi!

Happy Valentine’s Day from Chi!

How many of you were brought up to put yourself last and that ‘loving’ yourself might mean you were either braggadocios or thinking you were unable to improve  – NOT TRUE!!!   So my BIG message of LOVE to you is – Appreciate yourself! Take time for yourself! Send out LOVE as you go about your day! Give love without any expectations and have a wonderful day.

WARNING – there are side effects! First, once you start this attitude for life, you will want to keep doing it even on days other than Valentine’s Day and second, you will find that you have reduced your stress levels and you are smiling and having a stupendous day!  Loving yourself by taking up the simple Mind Chi Basic 8 minutes a day routine will build your resilience and give you a coping strategy to build your capacity to love.

Then I saw this article and thought that Debbie says it perfectly, so I am passing it on to you, on this special day of love. 

How To Become Irresistible in Love

Love is the most emotionally-charged, hard-to-define, mysterious word in our personal world. It is invisible, yet observable and concrete in the heart of the beloved. It insulates us from externals like: disappointment, criticism and the aging process. Love gives us a powerful energy and that’s why we love to be in love. There are two popular phrases involving love that need to be distinguished to clarify how to get love and keep it: Being in love and being a loving person.

Being in Love is a blend of two opposing forces: Primal, hot, animal urge and real, knowledgeable choice. Each one of us desires to be selected, but not as a consolation prize! If we are looking for romance, no one wants to be loved like a roommate or a caregiver. On the other hand, loving holds an expanded list of traits suggesting: Fulfilling a promise, giving selflessly and acting kindly. Loving does not have to be directed at a special someone; one can be loving to children in a classroom or patients in a nursing home.So how do you identify true love, find it and sustain it? Most likely, it’s a combination of being a loving person and being in love. If you are a loving person, you know how to love yourself and love others; you believe in love and so will make yourself available to attract love. On the other hand, if you don’t know how to love yourself, act kindly to yourself and think of your own needs, then how can you love another person or even believe that you are worthy of being loved?A relationship is not about two people becoming one, or clones of one another – that sounds like science fiction. Don’t keep on using, “we,” to speak for the other person. A relationship is a partnership of distinct personalities and talents. The best insurance policy for lasting love is to have a good self-concept. If we want to become irresistible to a significant other, we cannot resist that which must naturally emerge from within our personality.

Some parts of our personality are like buried treasure and need to be kept private, a piece for ourselves stored for a rainy day. We do not need to give everything away to another person. Vulnerability is over-rated; anyway it is a matter of choice: how much, when and why. When we know who we are, we know how vulnerable we need to be.

Here are some tips to recognize our true love or rediscover it:

  • Become lovable by loving yourself. This process involves knowing your gifts and then using them! You can’t be passive about who you are. You need to share your gifts.
  • Open your heart up even if you have had many heart-breaking relationships. The next one might be your true love. You will recognize it because you have had a great deal of experience. You will know it through contrast.
  • Maintain a level of curiosity. Even if you are involved in a long term relationship, keep exploring and asking the other person for opinions. Don’t always assume that you know what’s inside.
  • Change it up. You can’t do the same thing over and over again, and expect to get a different result – whether it’s the way you argue or make love.

Debbie Mandel, MA is the author of Changing Habits: The Caregivers’ Total Workout and Turn On Your Inner Light: Fitness for Body, Mind and Soul, a stress-reduction specialist, motivational speaker, a personal trainer and mind/body lecturer. She is the host of the weekly Turn On Your Inner Light Show on WGBB AM1240 in New York City , produces a weekly wellness newsletter, and has been featured on radio/ TV and print media. To learn more visit: www.turnonyourinnerlight.com